I have fixed the connection problems

Before I could only get onto multiplayer in the morning

But

I massed around with the settings and it has worked

All you have to do...

1)go onto multiplayer

2)go onto server browser

3)look at the bottom of the screen and look for show filter

Open that

4) now look to the very right of the screen where it says Europe, us, etc

5)now select the region you are in

6) DONE, I think you need to use server browser though not quick match

This basically makes the search for servers that are near you and so are easier to connect to, instead of half way around the world and FAIL epically!

Anyway, that fixed mine